Fear of Being Abandoned
Fear of Being Abandoned
Even when life looks okay on the surface, one fear never truly leaves—the fear of being abandoned.
No matter how close you get, no matter how clearly someone shows that you matter to them, there’s always a quiet thought lingering in the background.
What if they prioritize someone else over me?
Subconsciously, you know it may not happen.
They’ve shown up.
They’ve stayed.
They’ve made you feel important.
And yet, somewhere deep inside, a familiar voice whispers—what if it happens again?
This time, it feels worse. Because this person means so much more.
Even the idea of being left by them is terrifying.
So you try to protect yourself the only way you know how—by pulling away, creating distance, or leaving first.
Because maybe it won’t hurt as much if you’re the one who walks away.
It was never meant to be like this.
But past trauma has a way of sneaking into the present, even when the present is bright.
Why can’t we just accept that it won’t happen again?
Why can’t we believe that we deserve love, stability, and consistency?
Maybe we made mistakes.
But that doesn’t mean loss is all we’re meant for.
And yet, because of this fear, we sometimes end up breaking bonds that were meant to last.
We keep believing abandonment is inevitable.
What hurts the most is realizing that sometimes—without meaning to—we become the ones who make it happen.
Just like before.
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